CPTSD—The Misunderstood Trauma

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Introduction

Abstract illustration of a person meditating

Sometimes life has a way of forcing growth through crisis. My catalyst was an existential and identity upheaval earlier this year brought on by the compounding impact of a health scare that started right after leaving full-time employment and a breakup. These events, and others, led me to pursue a meditation practice. The meditation, in turn, uncovered major emotional stumbling blocks and anxiety issues, and revealed some major gaps in beliefs I had about myself.

Then came the trauma rabbit hole that brought me to the article on CPTSD and triggered an unpleasant dawning sensation reading through the symptoms.

This eventually brought me to reading Pete Walker's Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, which is a mix of psychoeducation, self-help, and therapeutic techniques that Walker has found effective in his practice and in his own recovery for understanding and healing from CPTSD. This article reflects on my experiences with CPTSD and summarizes Walker's book.

Understanding CPTSD

Most people are familiar, to some degree, with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), but Complex PTSD (CPTSD) is less well-known. Whereas PTSD develops from specific trauma, CPTSD is the result of prolonged, repeated trauma (often in childhood). This can include physical, emotional, or sexual abuse as well as neglect and abandonment. PTSD is characterized by flashbacks, nightmares, hypervigilance, and avoidance. CPTSD shares these symptoms with two primary differences:

  1. Emotional flashbacks, which are intense, overwhelming emotional states that are triggered by reminders of past trauma. Unlike the more vivid, visual flashbacks often associated with PTSD, emotional flashbacks in CPTSD are primarily experienced as intense emotional reactions.
  2. A harsh inner critic and struggles with emotional regulation, self-esteem, and interpersonal relationships.

Trauma during formative childhood years may lead to maladaptive coping mechanisms, poor identity formation, and poor relational patterns. I mentioned above there are specific symptoms and behavioral characteristics. They can be categorized in seven domains:

  • Attachment – "problems with relationship boundaries, lack of trust, social isolation, difficulty perceiving and responding to others' emotional states"
  • Biomedical symptoms – sensory-motor developmental dysfunction, sensory-integration difficulties; increased medical problems or even somatization
  • Affect or emotional regulation – "poor affect regulation, difficulty identifying and expressing emotions and internal states, and difficulties communicating needs, wants, and wishes"
  • Elements of dissociation – "amnesia, depersonalization, discrete states of consciousness with discrete memories, affect, and functioning, and impaired memory for state-based events"
  • Behavioral control – "problems with impulse control, aggression, pathological self-soothing, and sleep problems"
  • Cognition – "difficulty regulating attention; problems with a variety of 'executive functions' such as planning, judgment, initiation, use of materials, and self-monitoring; difficulty processing new information; difficulty focusing and completing tasks; poor object constancy; problems with 'cause-effect' thinking; and language developmental problems such as a gap between receptive and expressive communication abilities."

Hey, that last one sounds a lot like ADHD symptoms, huh?

Beyond these core domains, CPTSD in adults often manifests in several characteristic ways that can profoundly impact daily life and sense of self:

  • Self-concept – "fragmented and disconnected autobiographical narrative, disturbed body image, low self-esteem, excessive shame, and negative internal working models of self".
  • Changes in emotional regulation, including experiences such as persistent dysphoria, chronic suicidal preoccupation, self-injury, explosive or extremely inhibited anger (may alternate), and compulsive or extremely inhibited sexuality (may alternate).
  • Variations in consciousness, such as amnesia or improved recall for traumatic events, episodes of dissociation, depersonalization/derealization, and reliving experiences (either in the form of intrusive PTSD symptoms or in ruminative preoccupation).
  • Changes in self-perception, such as a sense of helplessness or paralysis of initiative, shame, guilt and self-blame, a sense of defilement or stigma, and a sense of being completely different from other human beings (may include a sense of specialness, utter aloneness, a belief that no other person can understand, or a feeling of nonhuman identity).
  • Varied changes in perception of the perpetrators, such as a preoccupation with the relationship with a perpetrator (including a preoccupation with revenge), an unrealistic attribution of total power to a perpetrator (though the individual's assessment may be more realistic than the clinician's), idealization or paradoxical gratitude, a sense of a special or supernatural relationship with a perpetrator, and acceptance of a perpetrator's belief system or rationalizations.
  • Alterations in relations with others, such as isolation and withdrawal, disruption in intimate relationships, a repeated search for a rescuer (may alternate with isolation and withdrawal), persistent distrust, and repeated failures of self-protection.
  • Changes in systems of meaning, such as a loss of sustaining faith and a sense of hopelessness and despair.

For more personal perspective on the dissociative symptoms I struggle with, see my post on my low-dose naltrexone experiment.

Understanding these symptoms and experiences leads to the question: what constitutes trauma? Before diving into Walker's framework and therapeutic approaches, it's worth examining how we talk about trauma itself—and how that language shapes both our understanding and our ability to seek help.

On trauma and Trauma

A short aside on lowercase-t trauma and Trauma, the lack of clear descriptive language for stuff in between, and the dilution of strong language.

Trauma language word cloud

Recent decades have seen an undermining of strong concepts like "trauma", "rape", and "evil". Sometimes this happens in service of political ends, sometimes to draw attention to the more subtle ways these things can manifest. But the result is a dilution of the language around truly horrific experiences.

One of my struggles in my own relationship to 'trauma' is feeling unworthy of taking up the designation—a sort of 'stolen valor': 'My experience does not justify the use of the word.' This is true in the sense that I have not been raped, beaten, or neglected. I do not have capital-T Trauma, but I do have psychologically distressing traumatic experiences that have shaped my self-concept and relationship to the world in severely damaging ways and negatively impacted my life trajectory. Picking up concepts like CPTSD has helped me understand and address these issues.

This creates a challenging tension. On one hand, victimhood culture and dilution of terms has led many to over-identify with trauma and use it as an excuse for poor behavior or to avoid facing up to their own shortcomings. On the other hand, there are many people who would benefit from recognizing the impact trauma has had on life their and seeking help. It may help to take care in distinguishing a psychology term as something that describes experiences you have versus a core part of your identity—much like how people who get too invested in personality typing can fall into self-limiting frames.

I do not know if a more-nuanced gradient of description language would help. The textbook term is probably something like "psychological distress" but this likely doesn't communicate much to non-professionals. "Trauma" communicates the seriousness of the experience. Perhaps I am culpable in some stolen valor by applying it outside the strong definition, but for now it is a useful shorthand for the sort of milder experiences that can still have a major impact on a person's life.

Walker's book focuses on capital-T Trauma. Based on his own experiences and those of his clients, but those of us who do not meet the clinical criteria for Trauma can still benefit from the tools and techniques he offers, as I have.

The Four F's: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn

  • Relating them back to me
  • On Smart Kid Who Liked Reading as actually dissociation

A cornerstone of Walker's framework is his expansion of the traditional "fight or flight" stress response model. In The 4Fs: A Trauma Typology in Complex PTSD he describes "four basic defensive structures that develop out of our instinctive Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn" responses to trauma. Depending on the specifics of the trauma, each response can manifest in both functional and dysfunctional ways:

Response Dysfunctional expression Functional expression
Fight Narcissistic and antisocial defenses Healthy boundaries, assertiveness, and self-protection
Flight Obsessive-compulsive and workaholic defenses Knowing when to disengage, healthy goal-setting, and self-care
Freeze Depressive and dissociative defenses Rest, relaxation, and knowing when to quit fighting
Fawn Codependent defenses Healthy caretaking and empathy

The 4F types are a core focus of the book. Most CPTSD sufferers overdevelop one or more of these responses. Walker also outlines several hybrid types where a person may have a mix of two Fs. Some examples:

  • Freeze/Flight: Avoidant personality type. Least relational and most schizoid hybrid. Avoids feelings at all costs. More commonly seen in men, especially those traumatized for being vulnerable in childhood. Think of the stereotypical "heady IT guy" who loses himself in technical problems to avoid emotional engagement.
  • Freeze/Fawn: Numbingly surrenders to scapegoating or narcissistic abuse. Typical of "classic" domestic violence victims. Often presents as the "invisible child" in dysfunctional families, the quiet coworker who takes on others' work without complaint, or the partner who has "lost themselves" in a relationship.
  • Fawn/Fight: Coercively or manipulatively cares for others. Often a rescuer or savior complex. Can be a martyr. Often has a lot of anger and resentment. Think "smothering mother."
  • Fawn/Flight: People-pleaser. Often a workaholic. Can be a perfectionist. Often modeled after selfless figures like Mother Teresa. Shows up as the chronic volunteer who burns themselves out, the overachieving student who needs everyone's approval, or the colleague who can't say no to extra projects.
  • Fight/Flight: The intense achiever who alternates between aggressive competition and withdrawal. Think of the "type A" executive who cycles between micromanaging and disappearing, the athlete who pushes themselves to injury then quits entirely, or the entrepreneur who oscillates between obsessive work and burnout.
  • Fight/Freeze: Often presents as passive-aggressive behavior. May appear outwardly tough but internally shutdown. Think of the sullen teenager who alternates between explosive anger and total withdrawal, the veteran who struggles to readjust to civilian life, or the "strong silent type" who bottles everything up until they snap.

The dominant type also influences how it expresses in a person. The fawn/flight type "smothering mother" above looks more like Borderline Personality Disorder when fight is dominant instead of fawn. The type that gets accessed in any given situation may be influenced by the specific triggers and change with context. For instance, a domineering fight-type at work may be a fawn-type ("henpecked husband") at home.

Recognizing your own type can be an unsettling experience, not unlike the uncomfortable clarity that comes from accurately identifying your Enneagram type. If you fit clearly into one of these patterns, the recognition tends to hit hard. In my case, identifying as a freeze/flight hybrid explained a lot about my patterns of dissociation, conflict avoidance, and mismatched emotional affect. What I had long attributed to being a "smart kid who liked reading" was often actually dissociation—a freeze response that helped me cope with overwhelming situations by mentally checking out and escaping into books.

The recognition of these patterns is both illuminating and challenging. While it provides a framework for understanding long-standing behaviors and responses, it also means confronting the fact that many of our seemingly stable personality traits are actually defensive structures. Beginning to unravel these previously load-bearing defenses often feels like a setback before it feels like progress.

Emotional flashbacks

Abstract emotional flashback illustration

  • Walker's description of emotional flashbacks
  • How this concept has helped me understand my own experience
  • Techniques I've found helpful in managing flashbacks

Emotional flashbacks are perhaps the most distinctive feature of CPTSD, setting it apart from traditional PTSD. In Walker's framework, these flashbacks arise from ongoing and repeated trauma, often occurring in early childhood before clear memories can form or before a person has developed enough cognitive capacity to process what's happening to them. Unlike the vivid sensory memories associated with PTSD flashbacks, emotional flashbacks manifest as overwhelming emotional states that seem to come out of nowhere.

When triggered, the body-mind reverts to a childlike state of fear, shame, despair, and helplessness. The experience typically includes:

  • Suddenly feeling overwhelmed by feelings of fear, shame, guilt, or helplessness that seem disproportionate to the current situation.
  • A sense they're overreacting but without understand why.
  • Regression to childhood emotional states and behavioral patterns.
  • Subtle triggers that may not be obviously connected to past trauma: a tone of voice, a certain smell, or a particular situation.

What makes emotional flashbacks particularly insidious is how difficult they are to recognize from the inside. There's often a profound disconnect between the triggering stimuli and the intensity of the emotional response, but this dissonance itself can be hard to spot while you're in it. This invisible quality makes it challenging to even identify the existence of a problem—how do you know your emotional responses are disproportionate when they're all you've ever known?

A big jump start on my own recognition path was the introduction of Low-Dose Naltrexone to my regime. Especially early in beginning taking it, it has profound impacts on ability to access dissociative states due to its acting on the opioid system. This made recognizing flashbacks easier (and substantially more uncomfortable) as I was no longer able to dissociate as effectively.

This self-blame is common among CPTSD sufferers and can create a vicious cycle where the shame about having an outsized reaction becomes itself triggering, leading to what Walker calls a "flashback spiral." The inner critic (which we'll discuss in detail later) often kicks in during these moments, interpreting the flashback as further evidence of personal inadequacy.

Walker offers 13 steps for managing flashbacks as a strategy for recognizing and escaping the flashback state. He emphasizes the importance of reviewing these steps regularly when not in a flashback to help internalize them and make them more accessible when needed. Some techniques I've found particularly helpful:

  1. Own your right/need to have boundaries. Remind yourself that you do not have to allow anyone to mistreat you; you are free to leave dangerous situations and protest unfair behavior.
  1. Cultivate safe relationships and seek support. Take time alone when you need it, but don't let shame isolate you. Feeling shame doesn't mean you are shameful. Educate your intimates about flashbacks and ask them to help you talk and feel your way through them.
  1. Learn to identify the types of triggers that lead to flashbacks. Avoid unsafe people, places, activities and triggering mental processes. Practice preventive maintenance with these steps when triggering situations are unavoidable.

Recognition of emotional flashbacks as a distinct phenomenon helps explain why traditional PTSD treatments may be less effective for CPTSD sufferers. It also validates the experience of those who struggle with emotional regulation but can't point to a single traumatic event as the cause.

The relationship between emotional flashbacks and the inner critic is cyclical—flashbacks activate the critic, which then intensifies the flashback, creating a self-reinforcing loop of shame and self-judgment. Understanding and managing this inner critic becomes crucial not just for handling flashbacks, but for the entire healing process.

The Inner Critic

Abstract inner critic illustration

  • Inner critic's role in CPTSD
  • Defense mechanism
  • Inner critic management strategies

The inner critic is typically conceptualized as an internal voice that echoes past critical figures—often taking on the tone of a parent or caregiver who was harsh, abusive, or neglectful during childhood. While most people experience some form of inner criticism, in CPTSD this voice becomes particularly toxic and overwhelming. It's not just a voice of self-doubt; it's an internalized abuser.

What makes this mechanism especially insidious is its original protective purpose. The inner critic developed as a survival strategy, attempting to keep the child safe by anticipating and avoiding criticism or punishment from others. By constantly monitoring and correcting behavior according to the abuser's standards, it tried to minimize harm. As Walker explains, it's like having an overzealous security system that never got the message that the danger has passed.

This critic operates through several common patterns:

  • Perfectionism and impossible standards.
  • Harsh self-judgment and comparison to others.
  • Catastrophizing and worst-case scenario thinking.
  • Self-doubt and second-guessing.
  • Minimizing accomplishments and maximizing perceived failures.

While inner criticism is familiar to anyone who has dealt with depression or self-esteem issues, the CPTSD variant tends to be more persistent and harder to quiet, often speaks in the voice of specific abusers, tends to trigger emotional flashbacks, and is more likely to spiral into self-attack cycles.

Walker emphasizes the danger of what he calls "critic spirals"—where the initial critical thought leads to self-attack for having the thought, which then triggers more criticism for being weak enough to be affected by the criticism, and so on. These spirals can be particularly debilitating because each loop reinforces the core shame that drives CPTSD. Management strategies that Walker recommends include:

  • Recognizing the critic's voice as distinct from your own.
  • Understanding its protective origins.
  • Developing self-compassion practices.
  • Learning to set boundaries with the critic.
  • Building a "healthy adult" voice to counter the critic.

For me, even recognizing a harsh inner critic as pathological was a big realization and it's still a struggle to pull myself out of critic spirals. There's an almost safe and addictive quality to the self-attack. It's familiar and comfortable in a way that self-compassion isn't—likely in part related to protection against fear of failure and rejection. The critic promises control through constant vigilance and self-correction, even as it undermines any real growth.

But the inner critic rarely operates alone. In mirror to the internal voice, Walker also discusses the outer critic, which often provides a sort of toxic balance by projecting some of the inner critic's relentless scorn onto others. The outward projection can serve as both relief valve and validation for the inner critic's worldview.

The Outer Critic

Abstract outer critic illustration

  • The outer critic's role in CPTSD
  • Defense mechanism
  • Outer critic management strategies

While the inner critic turns harsh judgment inward, its counterpart—the outer critic—projects that same critical voice onto others. This outward-facing critic serves multiple defensive functions: it can deflect attention from our own perceived failures, validate our inner critic's worldview, and create a false sense of superiority or control over our environment.

Walker describes the outer critic as particularly active in certain 4F types. Fight types, for instance, may develop a hyperactive outer critic as their primary defense, creating a narcissistic shield of judgment that keeps others at bay. In contrast, fawn types might suppress their outer critic almost entirely, turning all criticism inward in an attempt to maintain relationships at any cost.

The outer critic often manifests in recognizable patterns:

  • Harsh judgment of others' choices and behaviors.
  • Quick recognition of flaws in others while minimizing their strengths.
  • Difficulty accepting feedback or criticism from others.
  • Tendency to attribute malicious intent to others' actions.
  • Projection of one's own feared qualities onto others.
  • Persistent cynicism about human nature.

Like its internal counterpart, the outer critic originally developed as a protective mechanism. By finding fault in others first, we attempt to:

  • Protect ourselves from potential rejection or criticism.
  • Maintain a sense of control in relationships.
  • Validate our own defensive strategies.
  • Create emotional distance when feeling vulnerable.
  • Justify our own struggles or shortcomings.

The relationship between inner and outer critics often follows predictable patterns. Someone with a strong inner critic might develop an equally strong outer critic as a way of achieving balance—"I may be deeply flawed, but at least I'm not as bad as them." Alternatively, they might direct all criticism inward, seeing others as universally better or more capable than themselves. Sometimes they will swing between these extremes, projecting their own self-doubt onto others in moments of insecurity and then turning it back on themselves in moments of self-loathing.

Management strategies for the outer critic include:

  • Recognizing when harsh judgment of others mirrors self-criticism.
  • Developing compassion for others' struggles alongside self-compassion.
  • Understanding that criticism of others often reveals our own fears and insecurities.
  • Learning to set healthy boundaries without resorting to judgment.
  • Practicing curiosity about others' experiences instead of immediate criticism.

I notice my outer critic activating most often with people who reflect back parts of myself I am most insecure about, especially those parts I feel I have left in the past on my self-improvement journey. It's a sort of "I've moved past that, why haven't you?" reaction that is both unfair and unhelpful. Recognizing this pattern has helped me develop more empathy for others' struggles and more compassion for my own.

This balance between inner and outer critics plays a crucial role in how we navigate relationships and process our own healing journey. As we learn to quiet both critical voices, we create space for more nuanced and compassionate ways of relating to both ourselves and others.

Conclusion

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving offers valuable frameworks and tools for understanding and healing from complex trauma, though its scope has some notable limitations. Walker's focus is almost entirely on caregiver and parental abuse and neglect—understandable given both his personal experience with parental neglect (which he covers in the book) and these being the most common vectors for severe CPTSD. However, this narrow focus can leave readers whose experiences don't fit this mold feeling somewhat adrift.

My own experience with CPTSD, for instance, is both milder and more diffuse than the cases Walker primarily addresses. Rather than stemming from clear parental abuse or neglect, my trauma emerged from a combination of chronic illness, childhood social struggles (including bullying), and highly-sensitive person traits that amplified these experiences. While the book's core concepts remain useful, this mismatch between Walker's examples and my experience sometimes made it harder to apply his insights. That said, a broader focus might have diluted the book's impact for those dealing with severe betrayal trauma.

The more I've worked with these concepts, the more I've come to believe that many patterns of human behavior can be understood through the lens of lowercase-t trauma. As I've uncovered and addressed my own trauma responses, I've started recognizing similar patterns in friends and family members. This has particularly interesting implications for how we understand conditions like ADHD—I suspect many attention and executive function issues either originate from trauma or have a significant trauma component.

From a craft perspective, Walker's writing is serviceable but not stellar. The prose tends toward a dry academic style that can make dense concepts harder to grasp, and the book would have benefited from another editing pass to tighten up its arguments and improve readability.

Despite these limitations, Complex CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving succeeds as both an introduction to CPTSD and a practical manual for healing. It offers a balanced mix of context, anecdotes, and concrete strategies that make it valuable for both sufferers and those seeking to understand the condition. While those dealing with CPTSD will find the most value in its pages, anyone interested in trauma, mental health, or human behavior will find useful insights in Walker's framework.

Having worked with Walker's concepts for several months now, I've found the most value in his frameworks for understanding emotional flashbacks and the 4F defense types. While I may not fit the profile of his typical case studies, being able to recognize when I'm in a flashback or notice myself slipping into freeze/flight responses has given me concrete ways to work with patterns I previously found mysterious or immutable. The inner and outer critic framework has also helped me understand my reflexive responses to stress and conflict. Perhaps most importantly, these concepts have given me a vocabulary for discussing and working with these experiences with others who share similar struggles. Even if you don't see yourself in Walker's more severe examples, his frameworks offer valuable tools for understanding how early experiences shape our responses to life's challenges.